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Lessons From Trial, but not What You Might Expect.

August 3, 2018 Leave a comment

Happy Friday, all. I took this photo yesterday. It seemed a lot of people were enjoying Rosa Parks Circle.

 

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Today, after a 5 hour trial, I was waiting for the Judge to render his verdict.

 

The Judge took the bench and, before telling the parties his decision, he conducted a video arraignment – someone charged with a crime who was sitting in jail.

 

 

The young man was 18 years old.

The Judge asked the young man a question: his question and the young man’s answer stuck with me.  (Even after the Judge rendered a decision on my case.)

 

The Judge asked the young man: “do your parents know you are in jail?

 

Answer from the young man: “Yeah, she knows.

 

I will state the obvious: The fact that this young man when speaking of his parents makes no reference to a father in his life is both telling and heartbreaking.

 

This reality is simply not how the world should be.

 

And, unfortunately, this story is typical.

 

Fatherless Generation

I took these statistics from the Fatherless Generation

  • Father Factor in Incarceration – Even after controlling for income, youths in father-absent households still had significantly higher odds of incarceration than those in mother-father families. Youths who never had a father in the household experienced the highest odds. A 2002 Department of Justice survey of 7,000 inmates revealed that 39% of jail inmates lived in mother-only households. Approximately forty-six percent of jail inmates in 2002 had a previously incarcerated family member. One-fifth experienced a father in prison or jail.

    Father Factor in Crime – A study of 109 juvenile offenders indicated that family structure significantly predicts delinquency. Adolescents, particularly boys, in single-parent families were at higher risk of status, property and person delinquencies. Moreover, students attending schools with a high proportion of children of single parents are also at risk. A study of 13,986 women in prison showed that more than half grew up without their father. Forty-two percent grew up in a single-mother household and sixteen percent lived with neither parent

 

In the fall I will begin once again again mentoring an elementary aged student.

Each of the students that I have met with over the years has had a lack of a father figure in his life.

I look at these statistics, and ask myself:

is it worthwhile spending one hour a week during the school year with a boy who needs a positive male role model?

The answer every time is “Yes.

I wonder about this  young man that I saw on video arraignment today – how would his life be different if he had a different answer to the Judge’s question? “Yes, they know”

 

My question for you – “who are you pouring into?

 

E-mail: Jeshua@dwlawpc.com

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Twitter: @JeshuaTLauka

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Staring Into the Eyes of a Fatherless Generation.

There’s nothing like a Michigan summer.

Memorial Day weekend means the beginning of summer – and, consequently, the end of the school year.

 

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Today was my last day of mentoring for the school year.  Unless my student moves  (which is always possible) I hope to see him in the Fall.

Most of my interaction with my student is asking questions and just trying to encourage him.

 

One question I asked him today while shooting basketballs during recess:

 

 

 

Do you think you will see your dad this summer?

His answer: I don’t know.

I will state the obvious: The fact that this elementary school aged boy doesn’t know if he will see his father for months is heartbreaking.

This reality is simply not how the world should be.

And, unfortunately, this story is typical.

 

Fatherless Generation

I took these statistics from the Fatherless Generation

  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
  • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
  • 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average.  (Center for Disease Control)
  • 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average.  (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
  • 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average.  (National Principals Association Report)

 

I look at these statistics, and ask myself:

is it worthwhile spending one hour a week during the school year with a boy who needs a positive male role model?

The answer every time is “Yes.

I am not writing this post to: a) pat myself on the back or b) guilt anyone who is reading this.

I am just trying to illuminate a reality.

I often hear people say they cannot believe the poverty, brokenness, homelessness, addiction, that families are experiencing right in our own City. of Grand Rapids

It is true.

It is also true, that we can’t do everything, but we can do something.

What about you?

Are you working to build a better community?

E-mail: Jeshua@dwlawpc.com

www.dwlawpc.com

Twitter: @JeshuaTLauka